“Hatred never ceases by hatred, but by love alone is ceased. This is an ancient and eternal law.”
-attributed to the Buddha
“I learned a long time ago that some people would rather die than forgive. It’s a strange truth, but forgiveness is a painful and difficult process. It’s not something that happens overnight. It’s an evolution of the heart.”
-Sue Monk Kidd
"If we really want to love we must learn how to forgive."
- Mother Teresa
“Forgiveness is about healing suffering for ourselves and others. Until we develop compassion within ourselves and a concern about the welfare of others, we cannot truly forgive.”
-his holiness the Dalai Lama
"What power has love but forgiveness?"
-William Carlos Williams
“If you want to see the heroic, look at those who can love in return for hatred. If you want to see the brave, look at those who can forgive.”
“If you let go a little, you will have a little happiness. If you let go a lot, you will have a lot of happiness. If you let go completely, you will be free.”
“But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you.”
“Forgiveness will change your life and change our world.”
“We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies.”
- Martin Luther King Jr.
"Forgiveness is the key to action and freedom."
“Nonviolence and forgiveness are not just an idea, but a way of life for me."
-Congressman John Lewis
Bibliography/ Suggested Readings
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“The Power of Forgiveness”. A film by Martin Doblmeier.
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