• “If you want to see the heroic, look at those who can love in return for hatred. If you want to see the brave, look at those who can forgive.”

    -Bhagavad Gita

  • “Forgiveness will change your life and change our world.”

    -Desmond Tutu

  • “But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you.”

    -Matthew 4:44

  • "Forgiveness is the key to action and freedom."

    -Hannah Arendt

  • “Nonviolence and forgiveness are not just an idea, but a way of life for me."

    -Congressman John Lewis

  • “I learned a long time ago that some people would rather die than forgive. It’s a strange truth, but forgiveness is a painful and difficult process. It’s not something that happens overnight. It’s an evolution of the heart.”

    -Sue Monk Kidd

  • "If we really want to love we must learn how to forgive."

    - Mother Teresa

  • “We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies.”

    - Martin Luther King Jr.

  • “Forgiveness is about healing suffering for ourselves and others. Until we develop compassion within ourselves and a concern about the welfare of others, we cannot truly forgive.”

    -his holiness the Dalai Lama

  • "Injuries too well remembered cannot heal."

    -Benjamin Barber

  • “Hatred never ceases by hatred, but by love alone is ceased. This is an ancient and eternal law.”

    -attributed to the Buddha

  • "What power has love but forgiveness?"

    -William Carlos Williams

  • “If you let go a little, you will have a little happiness. If you let go a lot, you will have a lot of happiness. If you let go completely, you will be free.”

    -Ajahn Chah


Northshire Bookstore, Manchester, VT,  July 30, via Zoom:

Zen Center for Contemplative Care, “Inspiring Forgiveness; A conversation with Barbara, Koshin and Chodo,” New York City, September 14:


“The Secular Buddhist” podcast with Ted Meissner:


Boulder Bookstore, Boulder, CO, October 26, virtual book talk via Zoom :

Gramercy Books, Book talk, Bexley, Ohio, November 11:

Tricycle podcast. A conversation with Sharon Salzberg and James Shaheen on “Inspiring Forgiveness,” November 17:

Osher Institute for Lifelong Learning, “Conversations with Authors” series, December 7:

MacIntosh Books, Sanibel Island, FL, a virtual author/book event, December 8:


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